Just another bump in the road, right?!

I am about to embark on probably the scariest part of our journey yet. Although temporarily,  and having my older children at my side, I wont have my partner in crime. My rock. My best friend. He is about to have major surgery.  A scary surgery.  And yes "that" thought has crossed both of our minds. He has been so vocal about it that I had to get medication to cope with the stress and anxiety of it all. I havent slept or eaten properly in days. Jaylyn still manages to brighten my day but I cant imagine, nor do I want to entertain the thoughts that Jays feelings have planted in my mind. So for at least 5 days Im flying solo. And thats if everything goes well. This is all going on in the midst of 3 field hockey games, 2 practices, 2 doctors appointments,  and Jaylyn's physical therapy. So many people ask me how I do it. I do not honestly know how 1 person can do all I do. But I do know that I couldn't do it without all the help my son gives. Where a typical 19/20 year old young man should be focusing on girls, video games, friends, school etc, Dev has set those things on the back burner to help care for Jaylyn.  I thank him every single day and tell him how much I appreciate all that he does. I know how much he has sacraficed. And now I believe he understands just how much I have had to go through when he was younger too. It doesn't ease the guilt I feel but the woman who is lucky enough to capture his heart will be the luckiest woman in the world. I am hoping once Jay recovers that he will be able to have a more active role and be able to participate fully as a parent and member of the household. Since his illness had started just prior to Jaylyn's birth, he neglected to care for himself amongst all the chaos and heartache of Jaylyn's diagnoses.  This is why it is so very important for parents of special needs children to take care of themselves too! The problem was ignored for so long that it has become serious and possibly life threatening.  As if all of the "what ifs" we face daily about Jaylyn are not enough....Now? There are so many "what ifs" about her daddy too. Happy Birthday to me!